“When I think about something, I attract it into my life.”
One more post for today, and it will be about personal feeling, that all of us have (especially those who is reading my blog about Public Speaking).
Yaaa, it's about stage fright!
Most of us feel a degree of nervous apprehension when preparing to speak up or perform in front of an audience. But those who are filled with feelings of dread and panic in such a situation—or anywhere the person might be center of attention—may be suffering from a form of social anxiety disorder (also known as social phobia).
The fear of public speaking or performance, often called stage fright, exacts a huge toll on self-confidence and self-esteem.
Unfortunately, when we let this fear overtake us, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you are too focused on not trying to make a mistake, then that’s exactly what happens.
“I’m not good a public speaking.” Have you ever said those words? Maybe you were asked to tell about your life? Or perhaps someone asked you to present your activity, hottest product to a client. And in comes your inner saboteur, whispering in your ear that you’re no good, that you might just ruin the moment, and that it’s best to hide under the staircase.
Saying that you’re no good at public speaking is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When you refuse to speak on the basis of “not being good at it”, you’re condemning yourself to the failure. By not facing your fear, you’re not practising. And the only way to get good at public speaking is by practising and doing it a lot.
I believe it’s important to accept and embrace your nerves when they do come. When you acknowledge what you’re feeling, it gives you the freedom to decide whether you will let the nerves overwhelm you and impact your actions negatively or whether you will choose to let them go. Whether it’s the feeling of sweaty hands, stiff muscles, or butterflies in your stomach, nervousness and anxiety can show up differently for every person.
As we saw, it’s normal to be scared.
We all have to learn, to watch others, and to try it. It’s like running: you may complain that you’re no good at it, but if you go out for a run three days a week, you’ll see results in time. And you’ll get better.
Don’t expect immediate results, because it’s not easy. But you will improve. And with time, that “I’m not good at public speaking” will turn into “sure, I’ll do it”.
Yaaa, it's about stage fright!
Most of us feel a degree of nervous apprehension when preparing to speak up or perform in front of an audience. But those who are filled with feelings of dread and panic in such a situation—or anywhere the person might be center of attention—may be suffering from a form of social anxiety disorder (also known as social phobia).
The fear of public speaking or performance, often called stage fright, exacts a huge toll on self-confidence and self-esteem.
Unfortunately, when we let this fear overtake us, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you are too focused on not trying to make a mistake, then that’s exactly what happens.
“I’m not good a public speaking.” Have you ever said those words? Maybe you were asked to tell about your life? Or perhaps someone asked you to present your activity, hottest product to a client. And in comes your inner saboteur, whispering in your ear that you’re no good, that you might just ruin the moment, and that it’s best to hide under the staircase.
Saying that you’re no good at public speaking is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When you refuse to speak on the basis of “not being good at it”, you’re condemning yourself to the failure. By not facing your fear, you’re not practising. And the only way to get good at public speaking is by practising and doing it a lot.
I believe it’s important to accept and embrace your nerves when they do come. When you acknowledge what you’re feeling, it gives you the freedom to decide whether you will let the nerves overwhelm you and impact your actions negatively or whether you will choose to let them go. Whether it’s the feeling of sweaty hands, stiff muscles, or butterflies in your stomach, nervousness and anxiety can show up differently for every person.
As we saw, it’s normal to be scared.
We all have to learn, to watch others, and to try it. It’s like running: you may complain that you’re no good at it, but if you go out for a run three days a week, you’ll see results in time. And you’ll get better.
Don’t expect immediate results, because it’s not easy. But you will improve. And with time, that “I’m not good at public speaking” will turn into “sure, I’ll do it”.
Hello! It's really informative topic I may say. When I've read your post, I've believed that the effect of self-fulfilling prophecy can be in handy to overcome the stage fright! Thanks a lot!
ОтветитьУдалитьVery useful and interesting post! I hadn’t thought about why I’m afraid to speak in front of an audience. But now I understand what the problem is. Thank you!
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